Long time realationships - a mans view

Being a man I probably am very bias to my manly feelings my opinions unfortunately are geared to my gender. After spending 28 years in a relationship that I initially thought was the normal thing to do as part of my religious and social cultural indoctrination.

Yes life was all about earning money getting married and the having kids and keeping in line with the average type of family based advertising on seen on Television. There I was in a relationship with no real understanding of love how to be a parent or being able to understand female logic thinking.

I thought I was the boss and wore the trousers, but truthfully my female partner was running the show and she worked very hard on being a parent and keeping a ship shape house. I of course had little to say on running my home and when I did I was manipulated into thinking my partners way. I was the main cash earner though my partner worked over the years had many short careers.

But the reality was when I mess up Oh I did and then walked away from a marriage that had been more a cultural event of something I should do as part and parcel of being a man. I then found freedom to do what I wished to do and wanted do at the time and place of my choice.

But after a few years I became lonely for a woman, I had short relationships one night affairs and had even paid for sex when very drunk. But I felt there was something missing and life was not just about clubbing and pubbing I needed a female companion, however for three years or so after I had sicken of the fact that each time I tried to have a relationship with a live in lover the lover tried to use her feminine skills to control me and my life. Four relationships just feel apart one after the other. So I was on the short term relationship path until ones again things just did not feel right.

I then decided to retire early and seek warmer climates and cheaper economies to live I wanted to get involved in art and write a few books. My travels ended up in the Philippines, I was getting old but had still had fire in my blood and really felt the need to find a younger woman with no baggage that would respect as being the boss of the house though I did not want full dominance but left to do what I wanted to do.

I had been told that Filipino women respected the wishes of the husband, made good house wives. But boy was that information wrong I met a beautiful Filipino girl and fell really in love for the first time. Not worrying about the famine control thing and thinking the girl was deeply in love with me. But she was clever had boyfriends on the side of which I found out at the four year of our relationship when I was thinking we should get married. I found out that she was making love to an American friend of mine in a cheap motel. I was damn heart broken I had found out she had used my money to fund boyfriends and was thinking of dropping me for whom she thought was a richer man.

Since then I have found another partner that would not abuse my feelings though she is honest about the fact she is with me because I give her a better live and is more a friend than someone in love with me. I am the same with her I respect and like her for what she is, we both do not want to get married.

However I still have the problem of she, the 27 year old wants to control my life and she is more important than me when it comes to planning. Us men just can’t win we have freedom of thought and may want to be free but our sexual urges always end up with us kidding our selves we run our homes but in truth the women do in most cases.

I have now become to understand women and its took a life time in fact 63 years. Women are the real bosses and men are not free to really do what we want. Unless we are single.